Disclaimer: There are many things in life that I hold to, with and on opinions but that is because I am taught by my big boss that, with the nature of my job, I MUST have an opinion. Nevertheless, whether I choose to exercise my opinion to actions and thoughts, it is altogether a different matter.
As in most cases, I choose to stay indifferent, simply not because I'm incapable of liking / disliking but for the mere respect of the other being for their choice. That is all.
Now, about Infidelity.
To much of my amazement, there are hoards of people around me, close and not close are indulging in such act. So much so, that it makes me wonder, who else does not in today's day and age? Like who else is all clean with pureness of straight forward relationship. Faithful and all.
It seems to me that life these days or era {if that is how some posh people wishes to call it} takes no heed of sincerity and honestly. It seemed to me that lust has over ridden by climbing on the head of sincerity and shit on it, big time.
Or was it that, I am now finally at the age where the truth of life has finally come out of the closet and is flashing me rudely about reality?
Am I right to say, this phenomenon has been going on for the longest of time in life, ever since my forefathers and that, it is a no wonder at all that now I am old and mature, it is time that such happens to people around me, near and afar?
I was thinking. My granny lamented about my grandpa's ways of having women 'outside' as they Chinese call it. And this was way, back in the 40s. Plus, it happened to my grand uncles who eventually had few wives and the story goes.
So, it goes to tell to many extend that, it has been on all these while, and it is just that. I am convinced that my life have been wrapped with all sugar and spice, cotton candy and floss throughout my rather 'comfortable' and 'protective' journey. And that, I have missed the point.
But why?
Why has it got to be that men or even women can't just stay put with just their other half they have chosen to be?
I am well aware that there are various circumstances that spouts infidelity and even more so when either the man (more so) or woman (lesser so) is financially well off.
Somehow this monetary factor seemed to be the general root to infidelity {yes, I use the word general} and it has been going on for the longest time.
Rich men, generally scores women. Young and old. Alike.
It then wonders me if really, we, women, are that cheap after all? Is life that terribly tough that we need to be the 'other' person in the person's life just to enjoy some share of his/her wealth?
Is wealth that ever important that a simple man / woman can't just do without? Would it be not enough to live in a humble home, comfortable things to have and life goes one, tra-la-la?
It's sad to acknowledge reality. More so about this. More so when I realised that the other half who is often the ever faithful one is left hanging high and dry by the end of the day. Like, what has he/she done to deserve that? And yes, I am echoing the exact words said by people I deeply know so well.
It's sad. It's even tragic if you want to put it.
On the other hindsight, there are infidelity due to lust and/or love. And I do wonder where has that gone wrong? Don't love last a lifetime or was love accidentally interpreted wrongly during courtship? Or was it later realised that there was another person who after all showers better love?
So what now?
Are we then to be trapped in a triangle love? And live life just as it is? Or keep seeking for a better love? And keep going on and on and on about it?
It's funny and ironic at the same time.
So at this juncture, I guess that is where religion takes its place to govern the chaos in this life. Chaos of we beings, who are never satisfied with just what we have, us being, who are just always asking for more than what we are already blessed. To much extend, it amplifies the very reason the need for religion.
As in most cases, I choose to stay indifferent, simply not because I'm incapable of liking / disliking but for the mere respect of the other being for their choice. That is all.
Now, about Infidelity.
To much of my amazement, there are hoards of people around me, close and not close are indulging in such act. So much so, that it makes me wonder, who else does not in today's day and age? Like who else is all clean with pureness of straight forward relationship. Faithful and all.
It seems to me that life these days or era {if that is how some posh people wishes to call it} takes no heed of sincerity and honestly. It seemed to me that lust has over ridden by climbing on the head of sincerity and shit on it, big time.
Or was it that, I am now finally at the age where the truth of life has finally come out of the closet and is flashing me rudely about reality?
Am I right to say, this phenomenon has been going on for the longest of time in life, ever since my forefathers and that, it is a no wonder at all that now I am old and mature, it is time that such happens to people around me, near and afar?
I was thinking. My granny lamented about my grandpa's ways of having women 'outside' as they Chinese call it. And this was way, back in the 40s. Plus, it happened to my grand uncles who eventually had few wives and the story goes.
So, it goes to tell to many extend that, it has been on all these while, and it is just that. I am convinced that my life have been wrapped with all sugar and spice, cotton candy and floss throughout my rather 'comfortable' and 'protective' journey. And that, I have missed the point.
But why?
Why has it got to be that men or even women can't just stay put with just their other half they have chosen to be?
I am well aware that there are various circumstances that spouts infidelity and even more so when either the man (more so) or woman (lesser so) is financially well off.
Somehow this monetary factor seemed to be the general root to infidelity {yes, I use the word general} and it has been going on for the longest time.
Rich men, generally scores women. Young and old. Alike.
It then wonders me if really, we, women, are that cheap after all? Is life that terribly tough that we need to be the 'other' person in the person's life just to enjoy some share of his/her wealth?
Is wealth that ever important that a simple man / woman can't just do without? Would it be not enough to live in a humble home, comfortable things to have and life goes one, tra-la-la?
It's sad to acknowledge reality. More so about this. More so when I realised that the other half who is often the ever faithful one is left hanging high and dry by the end of the day. Like, what has he/she done to deserve that? And yes, I am echoing the exact words said by people I deeply know so well.
It's sad. It's even tragic if you want to put it.
On the other hindsight, there are infidelity due to lust and/or love. And I do wonder where has that gone wrong? Don't love last a lifetime or was love accidentally interpreted wrongly during courtship? Or was it later realised that there was another person who after all showers better love?
So what now?
Are we then to be trapped in a triangle love? And live life just as it is? Or keep seeking for a better love? And keep going on and on and on about it?
It's funny and ironic at the same time.
So at this juncture, I guess that is where religion takes its place to govern the chaos in this life. Chaos of we beings, who are never satisfied with just what we have, us being, who are just always asking for more than what we are already blessed. To much extend, it amplifies the very reason the need for religion.
And yes, I surprise myself by concluding this. Of all the people in this world, I conclude we need some form of religion to govern our insanity, our greed, our lust and our desire.
But I am not saying it is totally wrong. I choose to believe and understand the reason for a person's infidelity. But who am I to conclude? It is not I has any right to sanction the 'right' or 'wrong'. It's God.
Yeah, while I am a free thinker as it gets, I still believe there is somehow this thing / being / spirit called God who we would be accountable our actions for. Or if one does not believe in God, there is the circle of life that balances out every action to some equal reaction. And so it does come back to every single individual for the things he/she does. Like it or not, it's not a choice when it gets return. The choice only came at the strike of every individuals action.
Simple.
But if infidelity is to take its course, I would only think, it is right to ensure the other half does not get hurt over it. In fact, it would be all best, it doesn't get known and have it all buried 20 feet under, firmly into the ground, never ever to be known. Because for one's action, one ought to be accountable for, and thus, it should rightfully not be upon the innocent ones.
Of course, people who believe in Karma would say, Karma happens to families as well so if one believes in it, it just goes to say, don't do anything that would hurt anyone. Somehow, every action ought to be a conscious thought.
So at the end of it all, there is no end to the rights or wrongs of infidelity. It is how a person perceived it to be. How one would choose to live life and take count of this 'piece' of indulgence. And how one would learn to be happy just going on about with life, with that piece at the back of his / her head every now and then. It's just that, and karma.
As Shakespeare has once said, "Nothing is right or wrong, only thinking makes it so." It has to be. Along with Karma dancing graciously...
