I mean, if that is case, why bother even to ask right?
Don't just ask for the sake of asking just to show you look interested or concern.
It's just less of saying I'm stupid and here I am reaffirming you I am stupid.
And it's really daft that people think you don't realize from their body language and that eye contact. I mean, who are you kidding.
It's better to remain silent.
That is also one of the reasons I just refuse to meet and socialize with people who doesn't know me enough. Half of the time people are just not interested. And all the time, people are just interested about themselves and making themselves feel good when they socialize. Think about it. It's nothing to make the people around them feel good actually.
So this goes to say that when one socializes, you need to have people of the same wave length and interest to have everyone enjoying and conversation going. Otherwise, it does not make sense.
It is exactly like me meeting my ex-classmates, sordid colleagues for drinks or even getting to know a bunch of ruler straight nerds. I just don't feel the joy in a more than 30 minutes conversation because I don't seemed to go anywhere. Sometimes, my threshold is only 10 minutes.
Sometimes people tell me it is for old time sake, office sake, colleague who is leaving sake, or colleague's birthday sake and etc but these 'sakes' are really not that right in context. As I just said, don't do things for the sake of something.
If one can't feel you will be happy doing it, don't do. Don't attend. Don't even open that gap. It saves a lot of hassle, complication and time. Honestly.
If people feel they need more events in their lives because they can't stand the thought of being on their own or getting no attention or their reality life is so bleached or they feel empty not being in conversation or in company of anyone or that today they have nothing better to do with their lives because their kids and spouse are away somewhere, please, address that.
Don't keep having meetings, gatherings, catch-up and mamak meetings just to temporary 'cover' your issues. It will won't go away.
Face it please... and leave people like me alone. Stop bugging even. It is ok to invite but if invitation turns out to be a no show, this goes to show people are not interested and people find that there is no interest to be there. Simple common sense.
And please, don't try compromise to meet. It does not work that way... sometimes we just need to realise we all are different in every way. Simple rule of respect.
