Yesterday, something crazy happened within my team. Let’s put it that, one did not do her work as she was supposed to unintentionally (as it was an honest ignorant mistake), and the other got pisses because she missed her movie having to pick the former’s shit, the other who could have helped left home because she had to attend to her family matter, and me, the aka supervisor, told the former she can leave after training since all is well at the front.
And so, The Pissed wrote a nasty note to The Mistake, cc The Family Matter and me about it.
The Family messaged me, feeling all bad, and The Mistake called The Family, crying over it. Then The Family messaged me asking if I could call The Mistake to calm her down.
See the mess?
See why I don’t like to have convent to a team of people? See my point now?
Sigh.
Luckily I am back on my feet and I put off all heated fire as much as I could, as neutral as I could for the best of everyone.
I am part to be blame as well. But I am not saying this to my defence, but I honestly did not know we could check the system after submission once the system shuts. I thought, we can’t view for even checking purposes.
OK, so we all screwed up. But then again, I honestly don’t think there is a need for such outburst though I am truly feeling bad that The Pissed missed her movie. There could have been a work around it like The Pissed could have asked The Mistake to return to work and fix the problem instead of taking it all upon herself.
And so, The Pissed wrote a nasty note to The Mistake, cc The Family Matter and me about it.
The Family messaged me, feeling all bad, and The Mistake called The Family, crying over it. Then The Family messaged me asking if I could call The Mistake to calm her down.
See the mess?
See why I don’t like to have convent to a team of people? See my point now?
Sigh.
Luckily I am back on my feet and I put off all heated fire as much as I could, as neutral as I could for the best of everyone.
I am part to be blame as well. But I am not saying this to my defence, but I honestly did not know we could check the system after submission once the system shuts. I thought, we can’t view for even checking purposes.
OK, so we all screwed up. But then again, I honestly don’t think there is a need for such outburst though I am truly feeling bad that The Pissed missed her movie. There could have been a work around it like The Pissed could have asked The Mistake to return to work and fix the problem instead of taking it all upon herself.
Just tell me. I would have asked The Mistake to come back, like it or not. And I am VERY sure The Mistake would come back as she never meant to be mean, or not do her job well.
See my point now?
Why it is also that generally we Malaysians or even Asians has such problem?
1. We say all kinds of nasty things to people when we are angry without filtering the words. In short, we don’t stick to the issue in hand including the cause of the matter before we fire people just because it effects / hurt us – lack of understanding and tolerance.
See my point now?
Why it is also that generally we Malaysians or even Asians has such problem?
1. We say all kinds of nasty things to people when we are angry without filtering the words. In short, we don’t stick to the issue in hand including the cause of the matter before we fire people just because it effects / hurt us – lack of understanding and tolerance.
2. We on the other hand, while being piss over it, refuse to transfer the problem as a shared one especially when we know it is not just our problem – lack of communication skills.
3. So we brood, and we take it upon ourselves and we then lash all kinds of harshness around everyone, feeling it is our very right to say and act how we please because we have sacrificed ourselves for others – lack of generosity and open heartedness.
4. Then we claimed to the world how unfair life has been to us – lack of forgiveness and letting go.
I am not denying that The Pissed has every right to be angry but…
And so I’m NOT going to be the woman of all woman and start going all over like everyone has to the issue. We’ll just move forward. Mend those broken bridges. Take a breather. Learn from lessons. And move on.
Easy to say don’t I?
But what better way to move on? What use to brood over matters when it’s all done and said?
I can’t think of anything else. Tomorrow is going to be another day. And so is tomorrow and so is tomorrow and so is the day after tomorrow. The world doesn’t care if you have a problem or otherwise, it just goes on. And as fallible humans, we just need to move on, taking as less garbage as we can so we could live, at least… cest la vie. Cast la vie.
